Being a parent is tough as it is without trying to climb the ladder at work. Both worlds pull you in different directions; one asking you to stay late, whilst the other wants you home early. One requires near-constant online access and the other is best enjoyed offline and unplugged. Tensions grow and the stress levels can hit the maximum. Once the stress has set it, it can affect both worlds damaging your relationship with your family and jeopardizing your position at work. With this in mind, I have compiled seven handy tips to ease the stress and quiet the whirling storm of stress:
Run
Exercise is the best form of stress release, whether you are running around the block or smashing a squash ball around a court. A run before work can energize you for the day and improve your overall stamina allowing you to stay up later and add a couple of hours of productivity to your day.
Learn
When your head is spinning with work, life and everything in between, making your brain change lanes can help refocus and re-energize you. Some stress can be caused by a lack of direction or the feeling that your goals are getting further away. Enrolling in an online Udemy course or taking a class could give you the direction and motivation to break the cycle of stress.
Play
Short breaks are like a release valve for the brain. Taking time to relax and think about something else will help to alleviate the building pressure. Whether you enjoy playing video games, frequenting a fun to play bingo site or even hitting the golf course, a short break may be just the distraction you need to come back refocused and less overwhelmed.
Organise
When everything seems out of control, it can help to bring order to the chaos. With so much going on, you can’t fix everything straight away, but by taking little steps you can take back control of your life. ‘Trello Boards’ are useful to organize your thoughts into easy to see groups, ‘To Do’ apps can help you define lists of tasks and deadlines and a ‘Family Goal Board’ can help you and your family map out what your true goals are. If you know WHY you are working so hard and doing so many things, it may give you the motivation to power on through. Similarly, by having lists and boards, you feel a little more on top of your situation.
Watch/Listen
Motivational videos are everywhere on YouTube and listening to them first thing in the morning, whether in the shower or on the way to work, these videos can pump you up, increase your self-worth and get you in just the right mindset to tackle the stressful day head-on.
Escape
One of the best solutions to stress has to be the simplest, put simply – take a break. You are no use to your friends, family or place of work if your head is about to implode. Whether it’s a day trip, a luxury weekend away or a forest walk, it’s time to escape and take a strategic break in order for you to reset and come back refreshed. Just make sure that the break has a start and end date so you can appreciate every minute before returning to tackle the craziness.
Talk
In the famed book ‘Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus’, the Martians (aka men) deal with stress by retreating into their cave. They close off all forms of contact until the problem is solved. By contrast, the Venusians (aka women) share their problems using discussion and affection. When the Martians and Venusians work together they become stronger. As a Martian, do not be afraid to share your problem with friends, colleagues or your wife. They will not think any less of you and you will find that the solution often presents itself.
These tips are not only useful when you are stressed, but also a great guide to enjoying life itself.